The Two Extremes

So far in my inexperienced dating life I’ve come across two extremes. One extreme is the guy who can last a few weeks or so before he shows you his super power of disappearing. And then on the far end of this extreme is the guy who is practically planning your wedding after knowing him for all of 4 days. Where is the in between guy? The one who likes me, wants to spend time with, but doesn’t confess his love for me on the first date? Let’s talk about these two guys, shall we?

The Fader, sounds like a super hero…to bad he’s too much of a pussy to be one. He tells you that you’re so important to him and that he cares oh so deeply for you. Days go by and just when you think you’ve found a decent guy, it happens. You won’t know how or why …and maybe for a few days you might not realize that it did happen. You look at your phone, maybe it’s broken? Check your email, maybe the site is down? No and no. That was his super power of disappearance. One minute he’s there and the next, Poof! All you’re left is with a broken heart and a cartoon puff of smoke.

Then we have The Clinger. This guy is a complete breath of fresh air, especially after you dated The Fader. He tells you how beautiful you are, how lucky he is that he found, and what a loser that other guy was. All this after knowing you for a few hours, maybe days. But you feed into it because geeze, it’s been so long since you’ve had a nice guy like this, the complete opposite of The Fader. So you decide to go on a date with The Clinger and that’s when your intuition goes off. Something isn’t right but you’re not sure, he is a nice guy after all. He holds your hand, stares oh so lovingly at you, tells you that you’re so amazing and he wants to be with you and only you. And there it is. In the few days you’ve known him, he texts you at almost all hours of the day, wanting to know what you’re doing, who you’re with, and what you’re thinking about. He’s ….The Clinger.

Now my question is…how in the hell did I go from one extreme to the next? Where is the in between guy? The one that wants to be with me but doesn’t blow up my cell phone with phone calls and text messages at all hours of the day? If you know where he is can you let me know…I would like to meet this dude. Thanks.